When it comes to being sexy, it is a skill that’s possible to learn. There are many paths to take to become a sexy individual, and I am about to share 10 ways with you.
- Confidence. Competence or faith in one’s ability to learn. When someone is confident, they are very attractive. It is easy to feel that someone who knows what they are doing is sexy because they move with the energy of knowing they will succeed. In order to develop confidence in self, self-talk can be used, doing what you say you will do, or practicing for the sake of mastering a skill.
- Playfulness. Enjoying yourself, being silly or goofy. When we play games, we are having fun accomplishing a goal. The ability to get lost in a game and be fully immersed in play is attractive because we are focusing on the moment and the game at hand instead of being nervous. To be light and playful is an energetic state that allows for connection and fun.
- Carefree. No worries or concerns. Fearless or bold. When we let go of the outcome, we are able to relax and trust that things will turn out as they should. We do not focus on the results that are out of our hands, and instead place energy on what we are doing and how we are doing it. Focusing on one’s self and what is in our control is a powerful place to be in.
- Authenticity. Being yourself. Love for who and what one is perpetuates good feelings from others. Finding one’s self to be fine as they are is appealing to others because there is no need for their validation. Being secure in one’s self allows us to do what we need to do without waiting for permission and frees us from waiting on others to do it. When people can sense that we don’t need them to be secure in ourselves, then they are attracted to the easiness of being around us. Genuine people let us know we can count on them to be real, and that provides a comfort that allows us to let our guards down and be ourselves. It is freeing to be around people who are authentic.
- Slowing into the moment and allowing time for pauses. Being fully present in the moment is very sexy. It is where the magic of life happens. When we slow down and allow ourselves to pause and appreciate the gift of the now, we are giving ourselves a chance to settle, relax, and attract. Slower movements or speaking can be used to intentionally infuse sexiness into one’s actions.
- Effortlessness or gracefulness. Smooth and easy or fluid. With practice and mastery come fluidity and grace in executing a task. Whether that is walking around with a confident stride where you seem like you are floating or competing in a sport that you’ve trained hard for. Easy movements are attractive because they are smooth and exude confidence. There is beauty in efficiency and training.
- Women. All women are beautiful and sexy. The female body is full of curves and beautiful shapes. It is the vessel through which we enter life. Men can have sexy bodies too, but it is not as all-encompassing as the inherent beauty of women.
- Exclusivity. Limited availability or unavailability. When someone or something is available for a limited amount of time, the value increases. We would like to be included in the special group able to acquire the rare item. This allows for celebration of attaining that which seemed impossible to grasp. As people, our best bet is to have a schedule packed with activity and to fit others into it instead of always being available to those we would like to attract. When we are always free it makes it seem like we don’t have much going on which isn’t very attractive.
- Colors or aesthetics. Makeup, clothing, style. Red is a sexy color. Red lipstick can be very sexy. Choosing sexy clothing can contribute to one’s level of sexiness. It is a game that can involve revealing a little here and covering up there in order to create tension and drama within one’s attire.
- Movement, especially curvaceous, spiraling, or circular motions. Dancing with hip circles, body waves, or snake-like movements is very sexy. The feminine is winding in nature. When women are dancing, it can be majestic and breathtaking.
Those are my list of 10 things I find to be sexy. I hope you found value! Please share if you did. Thank you for reading 🙂
